Carly Simon’s “That’s the Way I’ve Always Heard It Should Be,” released in 1971, is one of her signature songs and a powerful reflection on societal expectations and the pressures surrounding traditional relationships. Co-written by Simon and Jacob Brackman, the song delves into the disillusionment and confusion that can arise when one questions the conventional path of marriage and commitment.
The song was well-received by both critics and audiences, reaching number 10 on the Billboard Hot 100 and becoming an iconic part of Carly Simon’s early career.
Did You Know?
- That’s the Way I’ve Always Heard It Should Be was released as Carly Simon’s debut single in 1971, marking the start of her successful music career.
- The song’s lyrics explore themes of disillusionment and the complexities of societal norms around marriage and relationships.
- The track was co-written by Carly Simon and Jacob Brackman, showcasing Simon’s talent as both a performer and a songwriter.
With its introspective lyrics and soulful melody, the song remains a timeless classic in Simon’s catalog, resonating with listeners who can relate to its themes of questioning societal norms and finding one’s own path.
Lyrics
My father sits at night w ith no lights on
His cigarette glows in the dark.
The living room is still;
I walk by, no remark.
I tiptoe past the master bedroom where
My mother reads her magazines.
I hear her call sweet dreams,
But I forgot how to dream.
But you say it’s time we moved in together
And raised a family of our own, you and me –
Well, that’s the way I’ve always heard it should be:
You want to marry me, we’ll marry.
My friends from college they’re all married now;
They have their houses and their lawns.
They have their silent noons,
Tearful nights, angry dawns.
Their children hate them for the things they’re not;
They hate themselves for what they are-
And yet they drink, they laugh,
Close the wound, hide the scar.
But you say it’s time we moved in together
And raised a family of our own, you and me –
Well, that’s the way I’ve always heard it should be:
You want to marry me, we’ll marry.
You say we can keep our love alive
Babe – all I know is what I see –
The couples cling and claw
And drown in love’s debris.
You say we’ll soar like two birds through the clouds,
But soon you’ll cage me on your shelf –
I’ll never learn to be just me first
By myself.
Well O.K., it’s time we moved in together
And raised a family of our own, you and me –
Well, that’s the way I’ve always heard it should be,
You want to marry me, we’ll marry,
We’ll marry.
